All meetings end in partings
That which rises must fall
which is collected will be dispersed
Birth ends with death
" I DON'T GET HOW SOME PEOPLE CAN BOAST HOW MUCH THEY LOVE THEIR PARTNER, WHEN THEY SIMPLY DON'T LOVE THEMSELVES FIRST "
It's is very sad to know that people tend to hurt themselves, threaten their loved ones by commiting suicide..Is this what we call love? Or was it simply attachment that couldn't be detached? An attachment to make their partner stay..If you really love a person, don't you want that person to be happy and not lead to a miserable life? Well, I guess I have no rights of saying such things yet, but as for now, that's how I define love. It is not about HAVING that person..But it is something that makes him/her happy. To feel that the world's filled with wonderful miracles despite of anything.
I had just completed a series entitle MOONLIGHT RESONANCE. I would say the drama was simple with lotsa conflicts in a family..But I really did learn alot from that drama. I can't deny I was touched by the series (even cried for a few scenes..sigh)..I was even toooo carried away by the storyline that I never noticed someone was talking to me. Basically, it relates alot on family ties..Taught us that MONEY ISN'T EVERYTHING, but family ties and love IS!
In such materialistic world we're living in, it's hard to tell who's sincere and who's not..I quote a friend of mine who once told me............
" Judge by your own heart and just be yourself!! "
What you gonna do next, Wen Yuin?
WELL, I get that often lately..Just so you know, I've just completed my SPM..
So...What am I going to do next?
I basically have no idea what am I going to do next..A Levels? Form 6? Matriculation? JPA Scholarship?
I can't deny she's extremely positive and mature in terms of thinking..She did not burden my parents much as she was offered JPA scholarship and was then sent over to Ireland to further her studies in Royal College of Surgeon Institution (RCSI). She has all passion to cure patients ever since she was in primary. And that made me respect her for who she is.
That's how my passion came about..To follow my sister's footsteps..Medicine may not be easy..But if my sister could do it, why can't I?I always think that babies are innoncently INNOCENT! It is the matter of moulding them into a better or worse person..Welcoming babies into the world may be a wonderful job..
From the many many reasons my sister and parents gave for being a gynaecologist, I do agree with what they've mentioned..It is not only dirty, but I won't be able to have much time for my family in the future as I'll always be on call..
What's next? I came out with a new dream..
In a marriage, both the husband and wife must think more of the partnership than they do of themselves. This partnership is an interweaving of interests, and sacrifices will have to be made for the sake of both parties. It is from mutual understanding and concern that security and contentment in marriage can be established.
Quote Venerable K Sri Dhammananda..
There are no short-cuts to happiness in marriage. Understanding and tolerant are required to overcome any feelings of jealousy, anger and suspicion. To think that one does not need to adopt a give-and-take attitude is to presume that love in marriage is just there for the asking without any sacrifice.
BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
-Both must have mutual respect, love and concern for each other
-Based on compatibility rather than just finding the Mr. or Mrs. Right
-Partner must not insist another to follow their way..Which brings to mind a humurous saying.. "Man has his will but woman has her way"
-Build good communication and understanding.
A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS NOT ONE IN WHICH WE EXIST WITH EYES CLOSED
There is a story of a hot tempered woman who would always scold her husband for minor mistakes by saying "You are a stupid idiot". The husband was very tolerant and kept quiet when he was scolded. However, one day, when the wife shouted, "You are a stupid idiot!", the husband said, "I think you are right. If I am not a stupid idiot, do you think I would ever have married a woman like you?" From that day onwards, she never uttered such words again.
Married couple should make every effort to cultivate the timeless virtues of love, fidelity and decency.
A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband
THE MAN WITH TWO WIVES
There was once an elderly man who was not satisfied with the one wife to whom he had been married for some years. He decided to take on a second wife who was charming and beautiful. Now, this second wife felt rather embarrassed to be seen with such an old man. So in order to make him look young, she spent a lot of time plucking out all the grey hairs that had appeared on his head. When his first wife noticed, she began pulling his black hair till one day, the man became completely bald, with neither a single grey hair nor black hair on his head.
When one partner attaches a lot of importance to birthdays and anniversaries the other partner should be mindful to remember these important days. Such little acts of attention show the person you love that you are thinking of them and that their happiness and welfare are very near and dear to your heart.
Married couples today can regulate the size of their family through proper family planning. Wise couples should plan their families according to their incomes and capabilities. There is no reason for buddhists to oppose contraception and the practice of birth control which prevent the fertilisation of the ovum. However, once the embryo is formed, it must be allowed to take its full course during the pregnancy. Buddhism does not support or condone abortion which constitutes an act of killing.
With 5 precepts on the head..
1) No killing
2) No stealing
3) No sexual misconduct
4) No false speech
5) No intoxicants
One will live well...Remember.............................
Purify your mind.