How to develop happiness in daily living

Extracting contents from an inspiring book I've read entitled as above..I hope you will enjoy reading this..not only will make you a happier person, but also to show you the meaning of life..

But my question is..Are you a buddhist?

It doesn't really matter actually because it applies to all..

So let me begin wit...

LIVING A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE

So it all begins when a boy and a girl meet, out of the millions..

When they both ocassionally remind each other how much they love their partner..

Till one day, the man proposed to the woman and have marriage at church...

"To the bride/groom, are u willing to marry her/him"

They proudly said right then................. I DO!

In a marriage, both the husband and wife must think more of the partnership than they do of themselves. This partnership is an interweaving of interests, and sacrifices will have to be made for the sake of both parties. It is from mutual understanding and concern that security and contentment in marriage can be established.

Quote Venerable K Sri Dhammananda..

There are no short-cuts to happiness in marriage. Understanding and tolerant are required to overcome any feelings of jealousy, anger and suspicion. To think that one does not need to adopt a give-and-take attitude is to presume that love in marriage is just there for the asking without any sacrifice.

BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

-Both must have mutual respect, love and concern for each other

-Based on compatibility rather than just finding the Mr. or Mrs. Right

-Partner must not insist another to follow their way..Which brings to mind a humurous saying.. "Man has his will but woman has her way"

-Build good communication and understanding.

A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS NOT ONE IN WHICH WE EXIST WITH EYES CLOSED

BEING DIPLOMATIC

There is a story of a hot tempered woman who would always scold her husband for minor mistakes by saying "You are a stupid idiot". The husband was very tolerant and kept quiet when he was scolded. However, one day, when the wife shouted, "You are a stupid idiot!", the husband said, "I think you are right. If I am not a stupid idiot, do you think I would ever have married a woman like you?" From that day onwards, she never uttered such words again.

Married couple should make every effort to cultivate the timeless virtues of love, fidelity and decency.

A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband

THE MAN WITH TWO WIVES

There was once an elderly man who was not satisfied with the one wife to whom he had been married for some years. He decided to take on a second wife who was charming and beautiful. Now, this second wife felt rather embarrassed to be seen with such an old man. So in order to make him look young, she spent a lot of time plucking out all the grey hairs that had appeared on his head. When his first wife noticed, she began pulling his black hair till one day, the man became completely bald, with neither a single grey hair nor black hair on his head.

When one partner attaches a lot of importance to birthdays and anniversaries the other partner should be mindful to remember these important days. Such little acts of attention show the person you love that you are thinking of them and that their happiness and welfare are very near and dear to your heart.

Married couples today can regulate the size of their family through proper family planning. Wise couples should plan their families according to their incomes and capabilities. There is no reason for buddhists to oppose contraception and the practice of birth control which prevent the fertilisation of the ovum. However, once the embryo is formed, it must be allowed to take its full course during the pregnancy. Buddhism does not support or condone abortion which constitutes an act of killing.

With 5 precepts on the head..

1) No killing

2) No stealing

3) No sexual misconduct

4) No false speech

5) No intoxicants

One will live well...Remember.............................

Do good,
Avoid evil,
Purify your mind.