This Is What I've Been Doing

FORM 6 TUITION! lolx, sounds ridiculous, but true...

The 100++ graphs we've been struggling for days to complete

My tuition-mate, AMALA..haha

another tuition-mate who loves destroying own holidays..SokYeng

We even stayed in the tuition centre to study! lolx

To keep us hydrated all the time..

ARGH, Stress much!

No better thing to do..

When you have This.........

and this........................

MATH ERROR IS WHAT YOU HAVE! =D

This or That

When you 1st arrive to an old folks home, what does your heart tells you?

“oh gosh, what a pity!”

“the kids of these grannies are so disappointing”

But have you ever thought that sometimes, we can’t just blame their children for not being filial. Sometimes, it is NOT as what it seems. Let me share with you something based on a true story..

A lady who’s a hair dresser namely A, got married to a man who’s much elder than her. A has been filial all these while and would always try her best to take good care of her in-laws. Unfortunately, her father-in-law was attacked by some kind of sickness..Half paralysed currently..Hence, each time, the siblings of A’s husband would alternately take good care of their father. Till one day, when A’s mother-in-law (wife of the sick man) decided to send her very own husband to the old folks home.

I don’t really get the point here. The grannies we usually see in the old folks are often abandoned by their children who gave up on them. But the case here is completely different. It was a suggestion from his very own wife. I simply felt sad for him.

He was not given an opportunity to enjoy the rest of his life with his filial sons and daughters but to live in the old folks home with despair.

This somehow taught me a lot. I realized how much time left I have for my grannies.

Time left…..Time left…….The next thing I know, it’s very little left..And I do mean, LITTLE!

With that, I am going to make every trip back hometown beneficial. To appreciate every moment together. Not only that, I also realized how appreciative my uncles and aunties are now than before. They actually took the effort to drive all the way from Penang, just to pay a visit to their mom (my grandma) in Taiping. They happily spent their time reminiscing moments they had when they were younger during dinner. It feels so great having to see my grandma smiling all the way. Although my grandma’s past may be bitter due to the death of her husband (my grandpa) leaving 9 kids behind, but it was those ‘bitter guard’ moments that held those 9 kids strong together. And here they are, as successful businessman, etc.etc.

In a nutshell, do appreciate those by your side. Regardless, they are still our family, ALWAYS.

The story of Ajahn Chah on Christ-Buddhamas

It was Christmas and the foreign monks had decided to celebrate it. They
invited some laypeople as well as Ajahn Chah to join them. The laypeople
were generally upset and skeptical. Why, they asked, were Buddhists
celebrating Christmas? Ajahn Chah then gave a talk on religion in which he
said, "As far as I understand, Christianity teaches people to do good and
avoid evil, just as Buddhism does, so what is the problem? However, if
people are upset by the idea of celebrating Christmas, that can be easily
remedied. We won't call it Christmas. Let's call it
'Christ-Buddhamas.' Anything
that inspires us to see what is true and do what is good is proper practice.
You may call it any name you like."

So, dear Dharma practitioners, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year !
May we all be happy, peaceful, be light in body and spirit.
May we all be safe and free from injury.
May we all be free from anger, anxiety, fear and mental afflictions.

All meetings end in partings
That which rises must fall
That
which is collected will be dispersed
Birth ends with death

IT'S CLOUDY OUTSIDE

I returned after saying goodbye to my grannies..Full of hope when I return. I was happily gettin myself settled after arriving KL. To my horror, I realized by hammie was badly injured..I guess the 'grey' hammy had a great fight with the 'white' hammy..NAUGHTY 'white' hammy had the 'grey' hammy badly injured..My heart torn apart upon looking at the 'grey' hammy who's suffering from major injuries..With the eyes bleed and half opened, with the neck being poked by something..Gosh..Why does that lil hammy gotta suffer in such realm? I couldn't afford to see it any longer and told my sister to take good care of it..

I miss how fat and healthy it was before!!!!


I had lil prayers, hoping that the lil hammy will recover quickly..May it be free from physical and mental suffering. Sukihotu..

Though...........

" I DON'T GET HOW SOME PEOPLE CAN BOAST HOW MUCH THEY LOVE THEIR PARTNER, WHEN THEY SIMPLY DON'T LOVE THEMSELVES FIRST "

It's is very sad to know that people tend to hurt themselves, threaten their loved ones by commiting suicide..Is this what we call love? Or was it simply attachment that couldn't be detached? An attachment to make their partner stay..If you really love a person, don't you want that person to be happy and not lead to a miserable life? Well, I guess I have no rights of saying such things yet, but as for now, that's how I define love. It is not about HAVING that person..But it is something that makes him/her happy. To feel that the world's filled with wonderful miracles despite of anything.

I had just completed a series entitle MOONLIGHT RESONANCE. I would say the drama was simple with lotsa conflicts in a family..But I really did learn alot from that drama. I can't deny I was touched by the series (even cried for a few scenes..sigh)..I was even toooo carried away by the storyline that I never noticed someone was talking to me. Basically, it relates alot on family ties..Taught us that MONEY ISN'T EVERYTHING, but family ties and love IS!

In such materialistic world we're living in, it's hard to tell who's sincere and who's not..I quote a friend of mine who once told me............

" Judge by your own heart and just be yourself!! "

PASSION

What you gonna do next, Wen Yuin?

WELL, I get that often lately..Just so you know, I've just completed my SPM..

So...What am I going to do next?

I basically have no idea what am I going to do next..A Levels? Form 6? Matriculation? JPA Scholarship?

I can't tell till I know what my result really is..Though, for now, all my passion that I have is to take up medicine..Why medicine? First of all, someone in my life inspires me alot for being one..She's someone not toooooo far away..Someone whom I knew since I was born..

She's non other than my eldest sis, namely Mei Chuen (named after a singer, Teresa Teng)

I can't deny she's extremely positive and mature in terms of thinking..She did not burden my parents much as she was offered JPA scholarship and was then sent over to Ireland to further her studies in Royal College of Surgeon Institution (RCSI). She has all passion to cure patients ever since she was in primary. And that made me respect her for who she is.

That's how my passion came about..To follow my sister's footsteps..Medicine may not be easy..But if my sister could do it, why can't I?

I always think that babies are innoncently INNOCENT! It is the matter of moulding them into a better or worse person..Welcoming babies into the world may be a wonderful job..
Unfortunately, from wanting to be a successful gynaecologist, my dreams turned into something else..

From the many many reasons my sister and parents gave for being a gynaecologist, I do agree with what they've mentioned..It is not only dirty, but I won't be able to have much time for my family in the future as I'll always be on call..

What's next? I came out with a new dream..

Being a paediatrics would be it..Since I have passion towards kids..! I hope they'll all live happily after being cured by me..Laugh all they want like they used to be..To be given an opportunity to grow and experience the world as they wish to me =)

I'll just make lil prayers everyday..

Hoping that my wish would come true..

How to develop happiness in daily living

Extracting contents from an inspiring book I've read entitled as above..I hope you will enjoy reading this..not only will make you a happier person, but also to show you the meaning of life..

But my question is..Are you a buddhist?

It doesn't really matter actually because it applies to all..

So let me begin wit...

LIVING A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE

So it all begins when a boy and a girl meet, out of the millions..

When they both ocassionally remind each other how much they love their partner..

Till one day, the man proposed to the woman and have marriage at church...

"To the bride/groom, are u willing to marry her/him"

They proudly said right then................. I DO!

In a marriage, both the husband and wife must think more of the partnership than they do of themselves. This partnership is an interweaving of interests, and sacrifices will have to be made for the sake of both parties. It is from mutual understanding and concern that security and contentment in marriage can be established.

Quote Venerable K Sri Dhammananda..

There are no short-cuts to happiness in marriage. Understanding and tolerant are required to overcome any feelings of jealousy, anger and suspicion. To think that one does not need to adopt a give-and-take attitude is to presume that love in marriage is just there for the asking without any sacrifice.

BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

-Both must have mutual respect, love and concern for each other

-Based on compatibility rather than just finding the Mr. or Mrs. Right

-Partner must not insist another to follow their way..Which brings to mind a humurous saying.. "Man has his will but woman has her way"

-Build good communication and understanding.

A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS NOT ONE IN WHICH WE EXIST WITH EYES CLOSED

BEING DIPLOMATIC

There is a story of a hot tempered woman who would always scold her husband for minor mistakes by saying "You are a stupid idiot". The husband was very tolerant and kept quiet when he was scolded. However, one day, when the wife shouted, "You are a stupid idiot!", the husband said, "I think you are right. If I am not a stupid idiot, do you think I would ever have married a woman like you?" From that day onwards, she never uttered such words again.

Married couple should make every effort to cultivate the timeless virtues of love, fidelity and decency.

A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband

THE MAN WITH TWO WIVES

There was once an elderly man who was not satisfied with the one wife to whom he had been married for some years. He decided to take on a second wife who was charming and beautiful. Now, this second wife felt rather embarrassed to be seen with such an old man. So in order to make him look young, she spent a lot of time plucking out all the grey hairs that had appeared on his head. When his first wife noticed, she began pulling his black hair till one day, the man became completely bald, with neither a single grey hair nor black hair on his head.

When one partner attaches a lot of importance to birthdays and anniversaries the other partner should be mindful to remember these important days. Such little acts of attention show the person you love that you are thinking of them and that their happiness and welfare are very near and dear to your heart.

Married couples today can regulate the size of their family through proper family planning. Wise couples should plan their families according to their incomes and capabilities. There is no reason for buddhists to oppose contraception and the practice of birth control which prevent the fertilisation of the ovum. However, once the embryo is formed, it must be allowed to take its full course during the pregnancy. Buddhism does not support or condone abortion which constitutes an act of killing.

With 5 precepts on the head..

1) No killing

2) No stealing

3) No sexual misconduct

4) No false speech

5) No intoxicants

One will live well...Remember.............................

Do good,
Avoid evil,
Purify your mind.

I Believe



I believe-
That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I believe-
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a
while and, you must forgive them for that.



I believe-
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I believe-
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I believe-
That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.



I believe-
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them

I believe-
That you can keep going long after you can't.

I believe-
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.



I believe-
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I believe-
That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there
had better be something else to take its place.

I believe-
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.



I believe-
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe-
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time!

I believe-
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.



I believe-
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I believe-
That just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I believe-
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've
learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.



I believe-
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I believe-
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I believe-
That our background and circumstances may have influenced
who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.



I believe-
That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, And just
because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I believe-
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe-
That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.



I believe-
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe-
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a
friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.

I believe-
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.



I believe-
That the people you care about most in life are the essence of life.
Tell them today how much you love them and what they mean to you.